I used a test light and tested the lug on the starter. This was the lug on the pasenger side. This lug had power when the car was off and the other lug had nothing, that is how I determined what lug to use. So as I was in process I just wanted to see if the extra battery would start the car and nothing lit on the dash, maybe it has a diode in the system some how but I thought it would work?
Just thinking here, if I connected to the wrong lug the starter would run all the time and not be able to shut it off. The other thing that has me scratching my head is the extra battery was 12.something volts and the other battery was about the same. But when I started the car they were both charger at 14.8v as they should. One of them is still the old battery, but it never had any problem starting the car, it was when I left something on and it drained quickly. This car also has the rear heated seats.