leaving it to the 3rd lock out should be fine if your under 55mph most residential is only 25 or 30mph which will keep you in the economy zone... if you want a way to disable it get a hardware/soft disable...Right, but that isn’t affected by tow mode. That was the point I was making.
Manual shifting through the gears does disable AFM, as long as you stop before you get to D.
Seems like a pretty difficult way to avoid AFM, at least if you are shifting on a column.