update2: well maybe its not a reverse voltage spike.
Installed a relay with diode, and when turning headlights off, the gauge backlighting still turns off for 2-3 seconds before turning back on in daylight setting.
The dic display does not have this quirk, only the gauge lighting. Also does it when I disconnect the daytime resistor and leave that circuit open (simulating a missing light sensor)
Reverted back to the sensor for now, afraid the signal is bad and I might fry something.
If anyone has an idea why the BCM would turn gauge backlight off for a couple seconds, when turning off lights and switching from 10k ohm to 680 ohm resistor on the light sensor to ground circuit, please let me know! Wiring diagram says it is an analog/digital pull-up
UPDATE: When the headlights and auto lights are off (with the stock ambient light sensor), and it is dark outside, the gauge backlighting is off. I believe that is the reason my gauge lighting would go off as I changed from lights on to lights off, the 3 second delay before changing backlighting modes. It would first change from nighttime mode/lights on to nighttime mode/lights off, before finally changing to daytime mode. Will re-install the relay in the near future.