...for some that just want to throw on a perfect fit system definitely go with the big names, the little bit of extra work needed to get the speed engineering where i wanted it wasnt to bad in my mind for the cost savings
^^^This.
There have been plenty mention the nice fit of the cheaper (mostly the Speed Engineering) headers. It's their Y-pipes that some have had minor to moderate fitment issues. It usually seems to be a misalignment with the aftermarket Y-pipe to the original pipe. There are so many variables that can affect this that are beyond what the header manufacturer's can account for, so it may not even be their fault. The way I see it, it's just a metal pipe that ducts hot gases and sound. If it needs a little tweaking, so be it, nothing detrimental will be affected. The type and quality of the tubing is probably the other biggest difference between the cheap and expensive brands. Seamless tubing is better quality and more expensive, but poses essentially no effect on flow. Again- it's hot gases and sound going through a tube. If the diameter and routing of the tubes are similar, the results will be similar. The gases and sound don't care who made the pipes. Also with the type of the tubing is the grade. The expensive ones may use a better alloy of stainless that's more corrosion-resistant. Personally, I'd save the $1,000 and tweak the piping to fit. But I have the equipment to do so. I also live in an area where corrosion (rust, etc.) is a problem (no salt here), so the grade of stainless isn't so much of a concern.
If you want/need something more guaranteed to be a direct, hassle-free bolt-in and made of top-qaulity materials, then you're probably better off ponying up the cash for the expensive ones. If you can work with 'em a little, then save your money and get the cheaper ones. Performance-wise, they should all perform the same.
My main concern with headers is heat retention. My plan is to get the cheaper ones, ensure they fit, and splurge on a top-notch coating (Swaintech).