What you said made me kinda sad - not the same as 'you make me sad'. We cool ...
This used to be true for engines with only one octane spark table in the ecm / pcm (OBD1 L31).
(As for your bro's Wrangler, I've never seen its ecm / pcm files, but if he hasn't timed it from 0MpH-'something',
or tracked the MpGs, then there's no objective way to know if his 'thinking it runs better' is correct, or not.)
Today - actually, since '99, likely earlier - our pcms / ecms have 2 separate spark tables,
one for Lo octane (87), one for Hi (91).
The Lo Octane (87) spark table for the Gen4 6.2L engines seems to have been written for a very lightweight car with very low aero drage (a 'vette).
As a result, using 87 in an L92 / L9H / L94 is not a great idea at best (unless the engine is NOT in an SUV / pickup).
Using 87 and driving like an @r$e has been known to break these engines.
GM did not write those Low octane tables well enough to save those 6.2L V8s from idiots.
Since I've not yet seen the spark tables for any Gen5 V8s yet, I can't be sure either way whether (or not) GM wrote the L86 Low Octane spark tables so that the 6.2L DI could safely tolerate 87 octane regardless of how it's driven.
My take is:
if you use 87 in a GM 6.2L V8, I hope it's because the gas pump you just used had no 91 available,
and that you find 91 at the next available gas pump.
Til then, working (or playing) hard with a 6.2L using 87 is a bad idea at best, even if driven gently -
but if driven GENTLY, your odds of everything being just fine are not nearly as bad as if you leadfoot it on 87.
For best results - durability, longevity, MpG, throttle response / power - 91 is safer and superior.
It is POSSIBLE to tune an L92 / L9H / L94 (DETUNE may be a better word) to run SAFELY using 87, but this can only come at the expense of losing power / torque / MpG etc - and you'd need to find a tuner willing to retard the Low octane table, at a minimum. BlackBear likely will NOT, for example.
I do not know if an L86 (or L87) can be safely DEtuned to work / play hard with 87?
Injection timing is every bit as important as spark timing with Direct Injection engines.
I do know the 5.3L V8s work better using 91 vs 87 though. Depending on the price of 91, it MIGHT be worth it?