ok, so everyone shows up to tell me i'm an idiot for not changing the filter often enough. i will be changing the oil filter with the oil from now on. my wife put a lot of miles on this car, so the oil filter has been changed at least once a year, albeit not at every oil change.
what about what i actually posted about - the 14k quote for replacing the engine? i'm legit shocked that the solution to the first clear sign of a problem is to replace the entire engine, rather than replacing some components, e.g. lifters.