Great topic, just finished reading all the replies.
IMO, true affordability means your home is paid off, you have ZERO debt, retirement accounts are maxed, you can pay cash for the vehicle and it doesn’t affect your budget at all. If you have to make a payment and sacrifice in other areas then you can’t really afford it. I don’t know anyone in life though that buys only clothes from the thrift store, all their food from Walmart, doesn’t subscribe to any kind of TV streaming services ect so everyone to some extent is not being as smart with their money as they could be.
Having said that, we have a suburban on order and by my own definition we can’t afford it. By the time it gets here we will have 40k to put down and will be financing the remaining 30k for 3 years and should have it paid off in 2. My wife has been driving a used 2003 Honda Pilot that we bought in 2015 for $5,500 when she was pregnant with our first child. That was to replace the $1,000 Chevy Cobalt she drove all thru college. The Pilot has 226k miles on it and we now have 2 kids ages 4 and 7. If we waited to pay the house off, then waited to save up all the cash needed, we would be buying a new car when the kids were about out of school and it wouldn’t even be needed at that point. My wife works hard and is not materialistic at all, I want her to enjoy a new car, we will have it for the next 14 years until our youngest is out of the house. I also got the 3.0 and wanted a new diesel before our stupid liberal government makes everything electric.
We budget every month and track our expenses, we make decent money, and I am in the category of life is a balance. Like others have posted, I have seen too many people retire only to die a couple years later. My wife and I started 529’s for both kids when they were born, but I do not believe in fully funding college for kids, just my opinion but I think it produces lazy and entitled workers. I don’t want my children to struggle(hence the 529’s) but they will work during the summers to fund the remainder of their educations. I don’t max retirement but I have a good chunk saved so far (38 years old) and should have a good nest egg by 60 when I plan to leave my current job.
Like posted multiple times, only you can make the decision for yourself.