Never been wrecked but my father did hit a turkey once lol. When it was lifted 3” on the bilsteins and 1” spacer I never measured it but never noticed a difference either.
I have brand new performance sway bars front and rear. Maybe they aren’t tightened down evenly?
The bilsteins are a firmer ride but the belltechs aren’t bad.
I may try to add another new set of front sway bar links and see if that will make a difference.
Pictures would greatly helps us help you. Got some good eyes and experienced members here that could catch something you might be overlooking.