What options are/are not dealbreakers for you?

[DuraYuk]

android auto zaps the phone's battery almost more than if the screen is on and you're watching a video. carplay doesn't have as much of an impact

It's probably phone specific but I have android wife has Apple and we don't notice increased battery use. Our phone cases prevent wireless charging cuz they have magnets and really don't find ourselves having to plug in much.