We are highly leaning towards the Diesel engine- will that change anything as far as towing? Sorry I should have mentioned that to begin with!
Because the diesel engine is heavier, the tow capacity stays the same with or without max tow. I have a diesel SLT right now and when we ordered our Denali diesel, max tow was on constraint. All I wanted it for was the integrated brake controller and the ability to get the trailer tire sensors. The aftermarket solution I posted above has been working fine for years for me, though, so I'm not going to miss it. I have towed a half dozen times now and it is a great engine. 31.5mpg highway, 22mpg towing (car on an open trailer, 5K lbs roughly).