Well, I found that Felpro has .041 gaskets that can be here in a week
You don't say! lol
I might could've gotten away with .041" but I wussed out and went with .045". At that time, I didn't know Fel-Pro was an option. Dropped the coin on the Cometics. If I couldn't save the scratch, the least I could do is pass what I learned after the fact.
The next questions are how do I measure piston height and chamber volume easily?
I used a dial indicator and magnetic mount from Hazard Frought. It's really not all that involved. There are plenty of YT vids. Basically, you get the piston flush with the deck, set the DI on it and zero it out then raise the piston to find the maximum. You measure from different points and with the piston rocked both ways, averaging the two figures. Keep a notebook handy. Don't be surprised if the four corner cylinders show shorter heights (less out the hole) than the four center ones. Determine your HG thickness based on the highest piston height.
I'd take the heads to a shop to measure the volume. It's kinda tedious and requires somewhat specialized equipment, so I'd let a shop do it. It shouldn't be much in labor charges- at least, not enough to bother homebrewed methods.