You're preaching to the choir here, buddy haha.
What you have said I have pretty much said to my husband, but the "what ifs" that I always come up with do not concern him as much.
But maybe if it comes from someone else, such as this forum, he will listen
Been married for 22 years and the honey-do list has always been difficult because he works such long hard hours and if it's not urgent (ie not a crisis) hard to get it to be prioritized. He is so stressed and busy in planning at work as a project manager for a Hazmat company that he doesn't have the mental energy and/or time to do a lot of these things that he thinks I'm just worrying about (case in point- He was up at 3:00 a.m. this morning to prepare for a Saturday job today, after already working 45 hours this week) The poor man needs to get some well-deserved rest on his time off!
Seriously if my arms were longer and I had more skill and experience, I would just do it myself! Or in the past when he is too busy or tired sometimes he says go ahead and pay someone else to do it.
We are both pretty frugal but if this is going to be a relatively inexpensive mechanic bill to prevent a potentially really expensive issue, I might be pushing for that. Wish me luck