Safety is always my priority. My question, however, is not about safety. My question is about the life of the engine. My question is the following: do higher speeds of an engine when towing causes greater wear and tear than when the engine is not towing? Are you able to understand that question?
I'm surprised you doubled down on your safety comment after the previous poster correctly pointed out that you are not being safe if you would consider towing a 8k trailer at 85mph behind your SUV.
Sure you try to nuance the question from a primary focus of what is good for the engine, but truth be told if you knew you could go as fast as the speed limit would allow and it not harm the engine, that is what you'd like to have the option of doing.
I have not read any posts beyond this one, but I suspect others are picking up on the same thing.
[I'd also point out from someone who has trailered for many years, a SUV with a hitch (regardless of it's towing capacity) is not the same as towing with a 5th wheel. You do not have the capabilities of a duelly, much less a tractor trailer. So while you might see 60' trailers flying down the interstate, it does not mean it is safe to do with your set up. I say this not in a condescending way, but if you are inexperienced (as it sounds like you are), you should recognize your limitations, and do more than get information from a online forum. You put everyone at risk, not just yourself, family, or the well being of your engine]
I am also surprised you are solely focusing on the engine, when the transmission is more likely to have issues related to towing.
Food for thought.