I felt the same way at first about bolting these up like this BUT a couple things sway my decision.
1st off... Rough Country is a pretty big company with a well known name and a lot on the line to loose if something should fail. I am certain they did their homework on the shear strength of the bolts in this configuration before allowing them to go to market. My guess is grade 8 was probably sufficient and they said "let's include L9 hardware just as a CYA". I am certain they don't want to be liable for any injuries... or worse.
2nd...
@07Burb has been running his like this for a while (20k+ miles) with no ill effects and, I'm not knocking him or his truck, I don't even think that the shop that installed his this way even used the "grade 9" bolts. From the pic I saw it appears that they may have just reused the factory bolts. I base this off of the fact that all of the L9 hardware I have seen has that gold (yellow zinc) color to it and his don't appear to be that way. Although I may be mistaken.
I just don't see it being a problem for normal everyday driving.
Now if you were jumping ramps with your truck I could see the potential for failure but even then I would just about bet on breaking ball joints before breaking two 180,000 psi minimum tensile strength rated bolts.
I believe I will order 3.5" bolts because the factory bolts are 3" long and I would like a little extra length so that I can install a second nut to act as a lock nut on top of my actual lock nut on top of the blue lock tite I intend to use... definitely don't want them backing out.
The guy that mentioned the castle nut and cotter pin has a good idea but I don't know about drilling an L9 bolt... that may prove to be a chore plus it might possibly weaken it some how.
I think the lock tite + lock nut + secondary nut will be just fine.