It's common that it only leaks when hot. From my experience, either you're running some really crappy oil or that's the beginning stages of the coolant/oil mix, meaning you caught it early. Honestly, if it runs great, has normal oil pressure and it's not full of black gunk, I'd say you're golden. Replace the heads and keep truckin'.
Can we get a good pic of the springs/rockers/etc.? Have you looked at the areas around head bolts, particularly between #3 and #5?
My brother's truck had 181K when I tore into it. It now has about 220K. Never opened up anything on the bottom end other than removing the oil pan to clean it and the rotating assembly. I did remove the cam to clean it and inspect the lobes and bearings. Slid it right back in. I pretty much did the same to mine at 200K, minus the deep cleaning part cuz it wasn't gunked. It got a mild cam and head upgrade. These things can take a beating!
Pending confirmation of a cracked head(s), I'd be weighing my options between those refurbed NuTech heads or finding a set of 799/243s and having them refurbed (cleaned, milled, etc.). We couldn't find non-Castech 706s but found some low-mileage 799s and slapped 'em on as-is. Better flowing head, but a small loss of compression. He wasn't worried about it considering the price. In my area, I could have a set of heads done for about $300. A set of 799/243 go for $300, so it'd be the same cost invested. But, the bump in power would make it the better deal for me. You gotta reward yourself for your troubles, right?