Not trying to start a pissing match. But, because you asked: "now why....... would a tire manufacture say max 44 and have that psi make the tire wear incorrectly?"
One reason is this; when techs are trained on mounting tires, they used to be told (don't know about current practices, as I have been out of that business for many years) to initially inflate the tire to 40 psi or more, just to make sure the bead fully seats. Then they were to let air out until it was down to the recommended pressure. The instructions were clear to "never exceed" the max pressure listed on the sidewall.
I hurt my back pretty bad in 1977. While I was at the hospital, they were treating a fellow who had TWO broken arms. He had just mounted a tire on an old Coats machine, and while it was inflating, he had both arms resting on the tire. He wasn't paying attention and over inflated the tire to the point that it blew up, breaking both arms. So, yes, there can be another reason to list max pressure other than recommending you drive around at that pressure. As I stated earlier, I have never seen a manufacturer recommend the same as max for driving.
that explains any tire exploding, it doesn't explain it causing uneven tire wear, like previously mentioned the chalk test comes into play here.
I would presume to think correct pressure for perfect tire wear will vary from manufacture, tire size, load rating, load on the tire, how it is driven, and even the environment it is used in.
is 35 psi going to get you 10,000 more miles versus 40 psi? doubtful, but I am sure the data is out there somewhere
is loading a extra 1000lbs on the tire going to make a difference, sure it will.
if the recomended pressure is 35 and I make it 40, will I get slightly improved mpg and slightly harsher ride, it's certainly possible
I have only seen "recomended" which means just that
and if the oem tire that came on the vehicle and is what the door label refers to had a load roating of 1700 and max psi of 44 and now you have tires with a load rating of 2205 and max psi of 51
then what? is it safe to add a little air? will runing at recomend psi cause uneven tire wear now?
you would think that now you would refer to a chart like trailer tires, because now you are out of spec based on the label on the door
and if said chart now says 37 psi instead of 35, unless you check your tires every month like clockwork it doesn't REALLY matter.