i uhhh, not sure you should let me touch anything else...this was a rough one
so i started taking it back apart, made the cut for the flex section, the flange i ordered was for 2.5" pipe (crossover is 2.25) so couldnt use it anyway. the remflex gaskets were close and i couldve made them work but they werent tight on the pipe anyway where my problem is. i pulled passenger side and weld was just junk to the flange so i grindered the welds off and cleaned it up. welded once, still no penortration, grindr'd it all back off, cranked welded to the max and was able to get some heat into it and looks 100x better, that with the flex section it should get any binding on it it should hold.
so then comes the imma dumbass part.
driverside is basically still stock manifold and about 6" from that is the o2, stock flange, was baffled as to why in the logger it looked like there was a huge exhaust leak on just that side after i put new pan on and loaded it up with rtv a couple days ago. so i have the crossover cut in half im cleaning it up to see where flex lays out - I had a weld there already so i know i wanted to cut it out and put the flex where it was. i look at the o2 sensor and i can see that the crush washer has a tiny bit of room on both sides of it - i figure it just bottomed out or jammed up something - nope the o2 sensor was just in there not even hand tight
about two full threads shy of even being snug
cross over with flex section is back in, laid another heavy bead of rtv between the flanges, with the donut gasket, letting it set up a little right now (says let setup for an hour before torqueing down) and then will give it a day or two to fully cure before i try to start and see how fuel trims look.