Woman took my car... civil issue... trying to get it back

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Luckily for me, I don't have any issues, no skeletons and my schedule is super flexible with most being work from home... stable job, she has insurance through me. She has her own room/bed all the stuff a spoiled kid would have. My credit is pretty much perfect... no weapons, just OTC medicine here.
So that's all good news for me, just normal traffic infractions, speeding etc.
that's good, only advice I can give on top of that is take a parenting class, they don't take long and you will receive a "certificate" that's just one extra thing to have under your belt in your favor, us men are usually screwed via the court system they tend to give things in favor of the women so anything we can do to swing things the other way helps, being that she is lying thru her teeth you need any proof on paper you can get, police reports of her violating the order, anything you can get your hands on. I would also recommend recording phone calls, text's, meetings between you and her and with either lawyer (if she has one). child support is a whole other thing, your going to want her to live with you while she attends school, if she lives with her and attends school there going to want child support or More child support than if she was with you more than 50% of the time, try to have her live with you and attend school and she gets weekends and split the holidays. when the time comes to meet with the mediator before seeing the judge share everything you have with the mediator.
 

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Saw some 16 hr courses online accepted by this county and state. Good call @Doubeleive
great! that way you can say you are doing your best to do the right thing for your daughter and have something to back it up with the courts like that kind of stuff. And don't say anything to her about it keep it to yourself the less she knows the better.
 

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great! that way you can say you are doing your best to do the right thing for your daughter and have something to back it up with the courts like that kind of stuff. And don't say anything to her about it keep it to yourself the less she knows the better.
GREAT ADVICE!!
 

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I believe she has narcissistic personality disorder...

Correction, she's a narcissistic sociopath. Lots of them in my family and they have cost us a large fortune too. The courts and lawyers get rich off of them, they are in no hurry to resolve anyone's case because they all get enriched for dragging them on in one way or another, it's disgusting. Dealt with this broken and corrupt system for decades, it's maddening.

Glad you got your truck back. Don't bee too trusting of your lawyers. Read up on the laws and make them use them. Too often they want to deal and ignore the law, same with the judges. Control the case, don't let it or the lawyers control you. Set goals and go after them relentlessly but tactfully.
 

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I would check state laws about recording phone conversations. I know that in CA both parties have to consent to being recorded. Otherwise it won't hold up in court. I would try to keep all conversation through text or email so that theres a paper trail. Remember, words are blown by the wind...

I would also recommend recording phone calls, text's, meetings between you and her and with either lawyer (if she has one). child support is a whole other thing, your going to want her to live with you while she attends school, if she lives with her and attends school there going to want child support or More child support than if she was with you more than 50% of the time, try to have her live with you and attend school and she gets weekends and split the holidays. when the time comes to meet with the mediator before seeing the judge share everything you have with the mediator.
 

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yep always keep in mind that you two can always come to a agreement outside of court, have it written up and notarized
I would check state laws about recording phone conversations. I know that in CA both parties have to consent to being recorded. Otherwise it won't hold up in court. I would try to keep all conversation through text or email so that theres a paper trail. Remember, words are blown by the wind...
if someone calls you then I am pretty sure you have the right to record it, calling them is probably different.
otherwise answering machines would have always been illegal. there are app's in google and the apple store to install that you can use to record your cell phone calls

**reason being also if someone calls you they have no reasonable expectation of privacy you could be on speakerphone, conference phone, in a public place, etc
 

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